Genuine Appreciation: Why It Works

30 Jul

Are you polite?

Most people would say yes.  We generally use good manners with coworkers, friends, and people we encounter out in society.  But are you polite to your spouse?

I have heard it said that most of us treat strangers better than our own family.  We are patient, courteous, and kind to someone we don’t know well and those we work and socialize with, but it is easy to forget those qualities around family.

The great thing about family is the deep connection and knowledge that they love you.  We feel like we can relax and have our guard down with them.  This is great, but we can’t let this freedom translate to no social filter.  Acting rude, entitled, and unappreciative is still hurtful to family.

In my family we have manners!  Please, thank you, and your welcome are very common words in our house.  I really love when my husband thanks me for making dinner or walking the dog, and he likes it when I thank him for unloading the dishwasher or folding the laundry.  All this politeness really adds up!  It creates positive and loving interactions that build trust, which makes us better able to deal with challenges.

Recognition is a great motivator and great for developing and keeping trust and goodwill.

Some would say that there is no reason to thank someone for something they should be doing anyway.  But that type of attitude (assuming and selfish) takes advantage of people and destroys an opportunity to create a loving interaction.  Why not recognize the effort and appreciate it instead?
Most of us want to have great relationships.  Using manners, and being appreciative is a great way to start.

Do you notice and recognize what your spouse does to contribute?

If you could improve, try to say thank you today for something they do today and mean it!


One Response to “Genuine Appreciation: Why It Works”

  1. Ben July 30, 2012 at 21:20 #

    I agree wholeheartedly! And wish it was a quality that more people practiced…

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