Holiday Parties and Respecting Your Spouse

31 Oct

So we have entered the season of holiday parties and some of us will be attending many shindigs with our spouses.

I wanted to put forth a cautionary warning and something to ponder.

When you are in public do you tell stories/jokes that make fun of your spouse?  Do you ever cross the line?

You know the line I am talking about…

You say something, then all the sudden feel weird and uncomfortable (and notice that other people do too).

It has happened to me in parties past, and one or two discussions with my husband have come out of it.

Navigating new social situations with your spouse takes getting used to.

When you are married, you have to learn a new way of interacting with others to a certain extent.  Things that were appropriate when you were single or just dating change.

You have this sacred private relationship and it is beneficial for it to stay that way.

At parties, it can be tempting to get a good laugh from everyone at your spouse’s expense, but it leaves your spouse feeling disrespected and everyone else thinks you’re disrespectful too.

When I am at parties and I hear a wife say something complaining or embarrassing about their husband I immediately look at his face.  I notice the dejected look and can see a little piece of manhood chiseled away by his wife’s words.

Let’s clarify a bit.

Funny cute stories that are endearing are up for grabs, but the moment that something has a complaining tone it crosses the line.

Sharing something personal that is uplifting about your relationship is ok, but the moment that you share something too private it crosses the line.

Bottom line, there is a line, and you can feel it when you cross it.

This is a no brainer right?

You would think that this would just be intuitive, but if it was I wouldn’t be sharing it.

I have done it.  I have seen it done too.

What if I accidentally do it?

If you are at a party and realize that you just made your spouse feel uncomfortable with what you said, move on to something else.

After the party, apologize to your spouse for how you made them feel and set a goal to work on it.

As wives, we have the power to lift up our husbands or tear them down!

The next time you are at a social gather, try to only say positive things about your husband.

You will reap the benefits of feeling more in love at the end of the night, and everyone with think you are an awesome wife because of it.

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2 Responses to “Holiday Parties and Respecting Your Spouse”

  1. Caroline November 4, 2011 at 06:06 #

    I’ve done it and I’ve seen it done…. Now that I’m attentive, I just cringe when I see it done on a regular basis by some of my friends. I hope everyone reads this post on such an important reminder.

  2. lifevesting October 31, 2011 at 11:11 #

    Great post! Sometimes during the holiday season, where drinks are plentiful, we can forget to show the proper respect to our significant other and ‘cross the line’. This is a great post on how to avoid that so thanks so much for taking the time to share!

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