Supporting Your Spouse’s Dreams and Goals

27 Sep

Recently my husband started working on his master’s degree, while working full time.  This is a massive undertaking requiring 25 hours of his time a week or more.  It is a great goal that will further his career goals and dreams.

The downside is, as my friend put it, “I am a master’s degree widow.”  I have taken on some of the responsibilities he normally helped with and have less time with him on weekends and evenings.

Why don’t I mind this new development?

Because I get to support his goals and dreams.  And his goals are S.M.A.R.T.

For a goal to be accomplished and for me to support it, it needs to be:

Specific

Measurable

Attainable

Realistic

Timely

If his master’s degree goal was missing one of these elements it would be much harder to support.

If I thought this would be life for the next five years, it would get way too draining to support.  If he was going back to school, but kept switching majors it would get frustrating because he would lack direction.  If he was using debt to go to school it would be financially unrealistic.

Do those scenarios sound similar to you or your spouses goals?  If so it would be wise to take a step back and reevaluate.

It is very easy to get excited about a new direction in our lives.  And that is a good thing!  We can’t accomplish things on excitement alone though.  When our goals leave our families at risk they suddenly aren’t as exciting.  The key to supporting someone in their goal is knowing it is well laid and not leaving you or them at risk.

Develop S.M.A.R.T. goals.

Share your story of struggle or success in supporting someone in their goals.

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5 Responses to “Supporting Your Spouse’s Dreams and Goals”

  1. Laura September 30, 2011 at 07:47 #

    Interesting. It’s a good article but I think you are missing a key element here: God. Sometimes the goal seems unattainable to us but God sees a bigger picture. I think it’s our duty as wives to support our husbands and to pray for them to have wisdom. So ya, if it seems like a ridiculous goal I think we can (and should) go to our husband to share our concerns (in a respectful way) but if he still decides to go through with it, we should support and pray, not continue to say “it won’t work”. Just some thoughts.

    • kickasswife September 30, 2011 at 14:26 #

      I agree. Sometimes when they go through with it, they learn more important and lasting lessons that in if they had listened to our concerns. And after we initially express concern, our quiet support speaks volumes.

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